Popular On Air Personality, OAP, Toke Makinwa, said parting ways with her ex-husband, Maje Ayida brought her joy and had also afforded her the freedom to know and relate with other men.
The OAP spoke in an interview with Fame Extra Magazine, where she talked about her dating life, misconceptions about marriage and more.
The 31-year-old had filed a petition for decree of dissolution of marriage to the Lagos state High Court against her husband, Maje Amaju Ayida over adultery, cruelty and irreconcilable differences.
Toke’s 18-month-old marriage to Maje Ayida hit the rocks when the latter impregnated his long-time girlfriend, Anita Solomon.
She disclosed that she cried for joy on her first date after the divorce, realizing she was single and dating again.
She said, “It’s tricky! It’s exactly like learning to ride a bike again but I think I am doing very well.
“Of course you get the initial stumble and fall off but the key is to accept that things are different now and that’s ok.
“My first date after my separation, I cried on my way home as I couldn’t believe I was back dating again, the stress and joys of getting to know someone again, the excruciating pain of the past and the will to trust another again. I am having a lot of fun right now.”
Makinwa noted that so many people keep quiet and let things go wrong in their marriage all in order to pretend that it is working.
The OAP added, “People are not honest enough! You are told to keep quiet about everything like showing a sign of ‘all is not well’ automatically means you have a bad marriage.
“The thing is, everyone struggles, no situation is perfect and if people walked around with a little bit of honesty about their situation, a lot of marriages might survive.
“Religion is also a very big problem, God is involved in marriage and he has also blessed us with the capacity to think and make decisions for ourselves so people need to be less religious and more aware of His love. There will be way less judgement.”
“So much goes on in a home and you are told to keep mute, keep taking, pray till your knees get dark from kneeling (which is a good thing, don’t get me wrong), but a lot of people lose who they are trying to keep with all of these mandates that doesn’t always work.
“I am not saying you should go around telling everyone your business but I feel if we had more people open up about their struggles and a society that is less judgmental, people will begin to appreciate the beauty of seeing two people work at staying together and realizing the sheer amount of work required on both sides.”