Date 2015-09-26
Category ARTICLES
4. You Assume You’re the Only One
When you’re getting to know a guy who you’ve been on several dates with, things are progressing well and you finally feel like you’ve found someone who could be right for you—that is, until you’ve found out he’s been going on dates with other girls. Whoops.
Only problem is, at what point did you discuss exclusivity with each other? That conversation never took place did it? Things just ended up how they were right?
Been there, done that. Being upset that he’s seeing other people is understandable, however, you’re both at fault for not being transparent and communicating clearly to each other what you really want.
This lack of communication is the perfect example for why feelings get hurt.
He’s a bit insensitive for not letting you know that he doesn’t want anything serious at this time. However, it could be argued that it is none of your business what he is up to. Some may even brand you as deluded for thinking that men want long term relationships at your age. However, research tells us this is anything but the case. Men do want relationships, and are not commitment-phobes.
You must communicate and find out what he wants before it’s too late. Your date might even lie, just to get into bed with you; however it’s better to get an inkling into his needs, wants and desires before it’s too late. Can you accept playing second-fiddle to other people? I can’t either.
