Whether you’re the one who was left heartbroken or the one who ended the relationship, breaking up is always a hard thing to do. Afterwards, you’re bound to feel angry or lonely, but it is important to stay positive.
- Don’t date (or marry!) the next person you meet
With revenge still on the mind, and in the heart, it’s very easy to want to replace your ex immediately, but try your best to resist. After a painful breakup, being single for a while is the best way to ensure that your next relationship is not impulsive and doomed for a repeat breakup.
Take some time to process what happened and where things didn’t go as you had hoped—and what you want to do differently next time.
- Don’t overdo it on the partying
Sure, it’s tempting to drown your sorrows to get over a breakup, but doing that is a mistake. Some people are looking for validation that they’re still attractive or sexy. If you, however, start drinking, flirting, or partying right after a breakup, well, all those things will create distractions from the grieving process.
If you don’t take time to grieve and don’t work on yourself, you are doomed in your next relationship.
- Try not to beg for another chance
You sure do miss your ex and you may still be in shock about the breakup, but try not to plead for another chance. If you feel compelled to do so, examine your motivation, “Do you miss your ex specifically, or do you miss the idea of having a partner? The two are very different.
- Don’t call or text
Try to go at least 30 days without contacting your ex if you are intentional about getting over a breakup. Before you know it, 30 days will become 40, then 50 and you will be feeling much better with additional clarity.
- Never be scared to change your perspective
Try to create a mental perception, where you imagine you’re the one who rejected the other person. Move from being the rejected to the rejecter. This will help to change the dynamic and make you feel more empowered and less of a victim.