Attracting the right kind of people can be tedious, especially if you are lost as to how to go about it. Not to worry, here are five excellent tips that can help you play a more active role in finding romance.
- Keep an open mind: When it comes to flirting, mingling and attracting people to you, your goal should not be to walk into a room, identify someone who seems like your type and put all your energy into catching their attention.
When you’re too target specific, you close yourself off to so much. Instead, focus on chatting with a few people—no matter who they are—and build a hub of positive energy from there. The more people in your social network, the more you’ll be able to branch out
- Maintain an open body language: Whether you’re eating at a restaurant, relaxing at the bar, or waiting in line at the grocery store, certain non-verbal cues will stop a potential conversation-starter in his or her tracks. To appear more approachable, put your phone away, remove your headphones, straighten your back, uncross your arms, and relax the muscles in your face. People will see you as calmer and more Approachable this way.
- Position yourself strategically: Asides being open to meeting new people, it is also important to position yourself in a place where promising interactions are likely to happen. If the entire bar is open, find a seat in the middle or at the corner. It’s the epicentre: the bartender is in front of you and everyone else is to your left and right. At parties and events, it’s best to seat at the food and drinks table, or a seat by the couch with a few friends. Place yourself there and open up your energy. People will come to you that way.
- Start a conversation by saying hi: First, take in your surroundings: observe who is in the room, how they seem to be connected, and who appears to be noticing you. The second thing to do is to get curious: say hi, ask a question, or make a statement.
- Share a piece of yourself: Once you’ve initiated a conversation, keep it going by asking meaningful questions and offering personal answers. Move away from facts and surface-level stuff and go into questions about the other person. You can ask questions like “What brings you here?” and “Are you from the area?” By sharing your journey, you can have them share theirs.
(curled from 360nobs)